A True Connection
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The title of this post might throw some people off. What does it mean? A True Connection, with who? A true connection can be established with absolutely anything, anyone or any-doing. Many people today are struggling to connect with anything really. It could be a simple act of saying hello to a co-worker or doing a good work; like donating clothes in a goodwill store. We lost the connection, the true connection to the deed in both thinking and doing.
But, why do we need to be connected and stay connected?
For instance, when a friend of yours needed you by his/her side to get a pat on her back or a lending shoulder; what is your first and foremost thing to do? Definitely; be at her side with a whole heart. When you listen to her; she would tear up, share her worries, fear and sorrow; your words come out, “I understand.” But honestly, how many times are you really deeply feeling for his/her sorrow and pain, and do you really understand? Most of the times, we are hearing, but not listening with heart, and with presence. Presence of mind, Presence of soul and just simply be present in the moment. Being present in the moment is something that majority of the psychologists and counsellors tell you do, to combat stress, to bring smile and joy back to the crazy rush and hustle-bustle we go through in every day’s life.
It is just a single simple line, really easy to read and understand on the surface. But if you touch and observe your everyday moments, more than half of the times, we are not present in the moment. There is the mechanical self of our minds that monotonously does the work, even dangerously multi-tasking and the present is gone. The thoughts swirl across the past and the future at least by a nano-second. Why is this seemingly easy thing so hard to achieve these days? And how can we stay connected with the being and the doing? And always?
Let’s take an example. As kids when we went to school, we were crazy for having the best pencil/pen in the market, the one that writes smoothly, the one that shows up the letters boldly on paper and the one that glitters and attracts other kids. And once you get that new best pencil, you write down on a white sheet of paper, with your head bent on the side, gingerly turning the pencil for the alphabet strokes and eyes fixed at the handwriting in an effort to produce the best ever hand-writing. As a kid you were connected. Connected to the medium(here the pen/pencil) and the joy of looking at your own work.
Present day kids lack that joy of using real admiration. Their own beautiful handwriting, which brings an endless joy and connection to their self. And because they type, the strokes of their fingertips producing the maximum words per minute and the keypad announcing the result on a glary screen. The connection is lost. There are no vibrations to be sensed, felt and celebrate the joy of the connection.
The busyness we created in the world we live in; demands so much of any parent, colleague or a high-schooler. We are in constant relentless move. There is no time to connect. There is no time to connect to the supreme power, no time to connect with the food we eat; the primary survivor of our own existence. It is a race, a race in itself, a race that has no meaning.
But, would you love to know that this can be changed with simple, easy to follow steps, that can eventually become a family ritual and can be passed on to the generations that follow? Let’s see what those are.
Keep a journal: Just write down what you love to do the most. Create a mind map of emotions or acts you love to do. It could be as simple as taking a five minute nature walk, listening to old classics, or reading a good book. Make sure you take the time for that 5 or 10 minutes and slowly work your way up. It gives you a bliss of your lifetime.
Make and keep friendships: Research shows that keeping friendships increases the joy and keeps the stress at bay. A lot of us dismiss to meet a friend or attend a social event thinking it is waste of time, but it is not true. Make new friends and make more connections, not via social media, but being present with them and participating in their joy and sorrow and helping them in need. It helps you more than them.
Practice meditation/breathing: There is a long proof and research. There are quite a number of statistics that clearly state that mediation brings the best health, prosperity and life in each one of us. And remember mediation does not have to be sitting in solitude and confined in a room. You can just stand/sit where you are, essentially just pause what you are doing and self examine your day or past few hours and gently guide your mind from negative to positive thoughts.
If you follow simple yet powerful steps daily and incorporate them to be part of your family rituals, you can assured to connect with your true self and the best of this world. And you can truly live in a world filled with good deeds, joy and purpose to life and leave a legacy of healthy habits to your children.